The gracegutsandgrit’s Podcast

Between Cultures, Between Selves: The In-Between Life

In this episode of Grace, Guts, and Grit, your host Kemi sits down with Dr. Mo to explore the invisible tightrope walk of cultural assimilation. From a four-year-old's secret love for stewed beans to navigating corporate America, they uncover the daily micro-negotiations of balancing your authentic self with the demands of a new environment. Discover why "just be yourself" is a trap, how to conduct a "friendship audit," and ultimately, how to achieve cultural fluency – a superpower in a multicultural world. If you've ever felt like you're living a double life, this episode offers a path to integration, not fragmentation.

Tokenism: Diversity's Evil Twin

Ever been introduced as "our diverse hire" instead of by your actual credentials? Or had your brilliant idea ignored until Brad repeated it five minutes later to thunderous applause? Welcome to tokenism, diversity's evil twin.
In this powerful episode of Grace, Guts and Grit, host Kemi (Oluwakemi) unpacks the reality of being "the only one" in professional spaces. Drawing from her decade of experience as a Black female physician navigating American healthcare, Kemi breaks down the difference between real inclusion and performative diversity with data, personal stories, and her signature no nonsense approach.
You'll discover:
Why being the "unique perspective" in the room is a red flag, not a compliment
The real health impacts of tokenism (spoiler: the APA calls it a health risk)
How companies like Target and Costco show us what not to do versus what works
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and protecting your energy
Plus, an inspiring conversation with Dr. Mo, chief of surgery and barrier breaker extraordinaire, who shares how she turned being underestimated into her secret superpower.
Whether you're navigating corporate spaces, healthcare, or any field where you're "the only," this episode offers both validation and tactical advice for thriving without shrinking yourself.
Remember: Your value isn't in being the only one. It's in being exactly who you are.
Listen now and join the conversation about turning tokenism on its head.

Your Crown Has Been Bought And Paid For

In this episode, Kemi talks about that moment she decided to stop apologizing for taking up space and why foreign medical graduates need to ditch the extreme humility that worked back home. Raw, honest physician story about belonging, bias, and finding your voice as an immigrant.
Topics: immigrant doctor experiences, medical career, foreign medical graduates, physician life

EP03 Burnt Offerings: What The System Takes From You

Burnout is a systemic problem, not a personal flaw. Kemi, physician & burnout survivor, and intuitive life coach Danielle, also a burnout survivor, reveal the cost of "resilience" for women of color & immigrants. Get vital strategies for self-advocacy & a call for equitable leadership. Plus, download Danielle's RECOVERY GUIDE: a 5-minute daily check-in to reconnect with yourself at https://www.danielleallenlifecoach.com/. Listen to "Burnt Offerings: What the System Takes from You" on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and Youtube now! Or head over to https://gracegutsandgrit.com/ #BurnoutIsReal #SystemicChange #WorkLifeBalance #MentalWellness #SelfCare #RecoveryGuide

Your Absence Is Not The Earthquake You Think It Is

Ever feel like you're giving everything to your job, your profession? In this powerful and insightful episode of Grace, Guts, and Grit, we get real about a tough truth: the systems we pour our hearts into, whether it's in healthcare, education, corporate life, or any demanding field, are ultimately designed to keep moving, often without missing a beat, even after we've given our absolute all. We share the poignant story of a highly respected surgeon. Hours after he passed away, his name was already gone from the OR board. It's a stark wake-up call: even when you make a huge impact, the organizational machine keeps on churning.
If you're feeling that relentless pressure of being always on, overworked, and teetering on the edge of burnout, this episode is for you. Are you sacrificing your mental peace, physical health, precious family time, and your own sense of wholeness for that often-fading idea of being indispensable? We dig deep into why these demanding systems, no matter the industry, don't really hold onto the memory of our individual sacrifices. It’s not that they're heartless; it’s just how they're built to run efficiently.
Join us as we talk about real, practical ways to set healthy boundaries that actually stick. We'll explore the surprising clarity and fresh energy that can come when you consciously decide to step back a bit, and the amazing journey of rediscovering your own passions and what makes you curious when you’re not constantly running on empty. It’s time to ask some honest questions: What are we really giving to our work? Is anyone even keeping score of our sacrifices? And what’s the true price of our dedication? You'll learn why your absence won't actually break the system, but pushing yourself past your limits? That could very well break you. Discover how choosing yourself, making your own well-being and self-preservation a priority, can not only save you but also empower you to help build healthier, more people-focused work environments.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why the demanding systems we work in (like medicine, teaching, or business) are set up for smooth operation and continuity, not necessarily to honor each person's contributions.
The real, and often startling, statistics about professional burnout and how it truly affects people in different fields (think doctors, nurses, teachers, and people in high-stress corporate roles).
About that common feeling of needing to be "essential," and how quickly systems can adapt and fill any gaps.
How to actually set and keep strong personal and professional boundaries – and why it's so important, even if it feels a little awkward or goes against the usual grain.
How intentionally taking a step back and making rest a real priority can lead to genuine recovery, a clearer mind, and a chance to reconnect with yourself.
That empowering truth: you are the main person in charge of your own well-being. No one else is going to swoop in and set or protect your boundaries for you.
Why rest isn't a weakness or something to feel guilty about; it's a basic need. Stepping away to recharge is an act of self-respect, not a betrayal of your responsibilities.
The incredible power that comes from choosing your own wholeness, and how that positively impacts not just you, but your family and what truly matters to you.
How letting go of the need to constantly "perform" and overachieve can open the door to a more authentic, balanced, and sustainable way of living.
That there's real hope for positive change in our workplaces when enough of us start valuing our well-being and challenge the idea that burnout is just "part of the job."
Keywords: Burnout Prevention, Work-Life Balance Strategies, Self-Care for Professionals, Setting Boundaries at Work, Systemic Workplace Pressure, Healthcare Worker Burnout, Physician Wellness, Nurse Well-being, Teacher Burnout Solutions, Corporate Burnout, Essentialism vs. Self-Preservation, Personal Growth and Development, Resilience Building Techniques, Mental Health in the Workplace, Overcoming Overwhelm, Reclaiming Your Time, Sustainable Work Habits, Professional Development, Stress Management, Employee Well-being, Mindful Living, Career Longevity, Organizational Culture

Perfectionsim

Perfectionism in creates analysis paralysis and negative self-talk cycles. Learn the psychology behind perfectionist self-talk, recognize analysis paralysis patterns, and discover self-talk reset strategies. This episode explores how perfectionist mindset affects decision-making, creates overthinking patterns, and impacts high-achieving women. Featuring practical solutions for perfectionist self-talk and overcoming analysis paralysis through mindset shifts.